The Love Bank & Languages

A friend of mine, Wayne, shared with me with regards to The Love Bank and The 5 Love Languages. Find it interesting and it indeed help me to manage my emotions, all because of my depressing status updates on Facebook.

The Love Bank:
Just the what a bank does, it helps one to save. However for this, it saves L-O-V-E. The account that one holds can be of a millions, billions or even zillions and on another hand, it can also reach a depleting amount, a negative amount to be exact.

Take for example:
Account: Willynn's Love Bank For Wimpsy Boy
Balance Amount: 1000 love & warmth points

One day, WB scolded me for no damn reason, Account had 100 love & warmth points deducted. WB hurled vulgarities at me, Account deducted another 600 love & warmth points...

End of Day Balance Amount: 300 love & warmth points.

Look, a divorce will reach if the Love Bank hits the pit bottom. I called it a Dark Hole. And actually Wayne shared with me these two issues separately however I find it that I can link it together. So, people would be questioning, how do you deposit points into your Love Bank Account?

Well, then it's gonna be the 5 Love Languages. This was actually adapted from a best-seller by Gary Chapman. (Click the link to find out more!)

And to cut short, the 5 love languages are:

1. Words of Affirmation
2. Quality Time
3. Receiving Gifts
4. Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch

You can read up more in the link that I had provided. Well, I guess, I do not have all of the 5. At least I am sure that I didn't have #3 (Christmas is not counted because it's not something I really want.). Quality time spend results in MONEY spent and after I had Sharanne, our world revolves about her. Acts of Service, Yes but maybe not because I had to live in a patriarchy system way of living so, if you see my husband do house chores in front of me and my in-laws (note the word "AND"), please buy some Toto or 4D. Physical touch, he hates it to the core in the past resulting in me not to do Public Display Affection acts in the Public that equivalent to NO ACTS at all. Words of Affirmation. I must have been glad if he doesn't talk to me in a pissed off tone where the world can show me the black face but I CANNOT SHOW A SLIGHTEST ACT OF UNHAPPINESS.

In short, my life is fucked up. Imagine, I couldn't show a slightest sign of unhappiness and I need to pretend that I am happy when the fact is I am not. I simply think that the world is ending soon or rather I pray for Doom Day to come near.

Yes, the above did set me to think through that I HAD ENOUGH OF EVERYTHING. And today I asked my mum if I came back one day, telling them that I am pregnant but I do not want to get married, will they support me despite all the pride and face issues, she told me "Yes, she will." but she will be very disappointed though.

That's good enough. Because, today I had reached a point where I could simply break down any moment but I held on strong. No one is there except my best buddy, Fishy who comforted me and bring me up. And I realize, the only one who can relieved me from all my pain and torture is my beloved baby girl. She gave me all the strength in the World.

Sometimes I think I had split personality or rather I went to check on the signs of depression via here and I realized, my good friend, Depression is back. I actually went to see a family doctor this afternoon for another matter (again, I only told my dear pal) and the best part, he told me that My Good Friend aka Depression is back and also asked me to look on the bright side. Tell me how can I do it?! Although my family doctor do not want to stress me further and always give me diplomatic answers. Well, it doesn't seems to be doing me well.

I am typing out this because I am someone who needs to vent and show my emotions. I can't keep it in me. The more I keep, the more terrible I will get. And I had a window period of a month before my family doctor sends me for classes again. And I had paid $300+ for a 20 minutes consultation, sleeping pills and a referral letter which I do not wish to visit at the end of my window period.

And I blogged about this because, there's no need to be ashamed if one had depression. All you need was to have that support and walk out of it proud. I had depression in my last trimester of my pregnancy, again Fishy knew about it. It got worst that I need to attend classes or rather THERAPY is what they called but I skipped all. Because I know if I go, it would only waste my time and carrying a 3kg plus "watermelon" around is no joke. However my stress level at that point was a hell high due to the fact that I was doing my last semester of my degree with a lot of stress. I had only one chance and if I missed it, I need to wait for another year. Best, my pregnancy had caused me several setbacks in life and people treated me very differently, sometimes, the worst could just happen, even when I am pregnant.

What I want to say is, when one is depressed. No doubts, he/ she can't think positively so importantly, find your pillar of strength and hold on to it. For mine yes, my best buddy had been a great shoulder for me to cry on and a pair of listening ear for me to share what's on my mind. And my pillar of strength is definitely my baby girl! :)

Once again, welcome back my old friend, Depression. :) I do not fear you because I had seen the worst in my life. I shall embrace you with both arms.

Whenever I wanted to share with someone, things will get tensed up but the person do not understand that I do not want to listen to any comments but just a pair of ears that listens to me. As simple as that.

Still, on another hand is pointless, as people will tend to get angry and pissed off so... I will be looking forward to Judgment Day where things will might be different. Fear not, I had my best buddy with me for BBQ that night. :) And I feel that I am so restricted by doing what I really want. Anyway, no point to share in-depth because things will be the same and no one will understand how I feel. I just want to do the things that I want despite whatever it is, but it's always a NO where unfairness came in but look at it on another way, WHY UNFAIR? I find that it's fair because its me who went through the pain and the process, not anyone else. No one is fair. I am unfair to people because they are unfair to me too.

One day, when my brim is hit. I will rebel, rebuke and reciprocate. Watch your back, people! And thanks Fishy for always being there, walking me out from the unhappiness.

Merry Xmas!

This year, Christmas is nice. Great and wonderful. Reason? I witness a proposal and it's XMM's first Christmas. Brought her to CCK to pray on Sunday. Insightful trip.

And I hope everyone will enjoy their holidays! :)

Insomia

Can't sleep due to the medication which has not take any effect on me yet. And by saying this, I suddenly had this idea of starting a food blog. Not the usual kind, but a blog that sets up to introduce my recipes and promotes vegetarism. :)

Something I would be glad to look forward to.

Spend $$$

Over the past 4 months, I had a total damage of more than 5k+ on:

1. Wimpsy Boy's iPad @ 1.2k+
2. Taiwan & Hongkong Trip @ 2.3k+
3. ACTA Course @ 1k+
4. Wimpsy Boy's iPhone4 which I got it at $660.
5. Baby's Girl Stuffs (Stroller, Clothes, Toys and etc) over $500 plus and counting.

Sometimes I wonder where all these money came from and how the hell did I manage to save last time with all my extravagant buys and stuffs. Looks like my bank account is depleting to a pathetic sum soon and in other words, I NEED TO GET MY ASS OUT TO WORK real soon.

I told Wimpsy Boy that I wanted to work an office job but apparently, People Association pays well for a CM post and it need me to work ONE weekends and shifts. Well, the bonus is that... It pays me real good that I could buy alot of stuffs, get a car and save $300 for Sharanne's account every single month.

Hmmm, opportunity cost is that, I might have lesser time or rather no time for Baby Sharanne in coming months. This is the things that... stops me from doing anything or finding a job.

Another alternative is, go for my dreams, continue on my venture but you see, I need to lock 20k for the license and best part, I am not confident is I am able to do it at the end of the day. I get real tired and distracted due to certain issues that I do not want to have anything that will drastically drained me out of my single energy.

My main priority would be still Sharanne dear. I will do anything just to give her a better future and a happy childhood. But it seems like it's so hard to compromise the both together...

Last choice, I need to place a bet on Wimpsy Boy that he will do well in his wonderful career that I can be a SAHM but looking at it now, it might takes some time because, he needs to take care of his parents.

This sucks. Whatever. I believed that God will grant me some directions on this. Bless the Lord and...

Merry Christmas in advance. Gonna travel down to Wimpsy Boy's office tomorrow morning then head out for a family celebration just with Wimpsy Boy and Sharanne then proceed to the XMAS celebration with my wonderful friends. Best part, I have not prepare any presents yet.

LAST MINUTE SHOPPING tomorrow then. Ha! Going over to Choa Chu Kang on Sunday for Grandpa's 18th death anniversary and maybe I will head to Lots1 to shop because, friends told me that there are many chio clothes for Baby there! HMMMMM...

We Did A Web Cam

The title says it all.

Pregnancy - Sharanne

Life had been interesting and I really need to pen down this wonderful process to keep it as a memoir. Was blog-hopping some Mummies website and realised that majority had penned down how they came to know about the pregnancy. Thus I shall do a little rewind as I realised my memories are failing me as time goes by. Sighs.

Somewhere in December, before I celebrated my 21st birthday, I realised something is not right with my body. Tender breasts and veins popping out from no where, best part, my good sister didn't manage to visit me after a month but since it's always irregular. I didn't manage to think much into it. No morning sickness, nothing... And this goes on till I decide to quit NTUC CLUB. I was wondering why my good sister aka the menses didn't come after 2 months. Did some read up and for your information, my highest record of it not coming is at 3 months so 2 months seems to be like a norm but still instinct told me...

Something is not right somewhere and I had weird cravings for food. So sometimes before Christmas, I head over to Guardian and ta-da bought myself a kit.

Did the test and the feeling sucks at the point of time. Negativism overwhelmed me. Many evil people planted the abortion thought in me, didn't break the news to anyone in the family yet. So this drags on for months. Someone celebrated his birthday taking Graduation + Family Portrait without me in the whole picture. At that point of time, I was thinking if I should really consider in being a Single-Parent because I feel like as if I am No-One. Was real determined that I am going to keep the baby no matter what happens. However I am happy that I had this real close friend, who supported me in times of such situation. Thank you Fishy! :)

A turning point came.

After the BKK Trip in Feb with friends and Chinese New Year, Someone went to speak to his family, putting down all his pride and ensuring me that things will fall in place soon. And ta-da, our wedding was held and planned within a short span of 3 months time. Till date, I am still shocked at the rate it had happened. Although there are a certain level of negativism and unhappiness thorough this one year. I am still proud enough to say, I am glad to have this Someone by my side. Thank you, Wimpsy Boy.

And a pat on my shoulder to tell myself that I had survived till today.

The pregnancy days was indeed tough because No One accompanied me for the Gynae appointment except my wonderful buddy, Fishy and Wimpsy Boy begins to accompany me to those important ones and the appointment towards the later stage.

So, I had formed my little nucleoli with W.B and Princess Maomao, I still find something is amiss. *Winks*

And ta-da 2 more weeks to 2011! Wonderful!

Christmas BBQ

Like seriously, I am suffering from Insomia and a bad tummyache thus I decide to spend my time, watching tv shows and blogged. Recently, life had been quite fulfilling except that there are alot of people who kept on stepping on my toes. But whatever, I do not give a big damn but I seriously can't wait to get out of it.

Pending my 2 years plan.

On the happier note, this time round is Xiao Mei Mei first Christmas with me. And ta-da, its with Daddy's friends at The Calrose.

When the ladies...

Met the MEN and my dearest WIMPSY BOY. LOL.

Not yet a full house with Seng missing from this picture.

This is the bunch of mates Wimpsy Boy went school with, donkey years ago. Mind you, I left Secondary School like 6 years back and he had left Secondary School like XX years back. Hahahaha, see the difference. Amazingly, fate is a special and funny thing, it bought back 2 people together and someone back to the place where fond memories stay.

As you can see, Xiao Mei Mei wasn't really of any mood till the end of the event and begins her princessy moments. Well... I just hope that...

She had enjoyed her day! And proud of her for being a good girl for a longest period of my time where I think I could almost died from grasping air.

Speaking of which, gonna feed her before she throws her tantrums.

AND SHE PASSED HER 4TH MONTHS STAGE. :)
Hope everyone enjoyed their weekends!

Bio Platinum BB Cream

In this blog post, you will get to know more about the Bio Platinum BB Cream. This is definitely good for whitening as it contains:

•  TANAKA extract to facilitate WHITENING of the skin.
• Better than Bio Multi-Effect BB Cream as it had 10-in-1 benefits, compared to the Bio Multi Effect BB cream which only has 8-in-1
• And the benefits of PLATINUM for the skin. Platinum is a very rare ingredient and it boost the skin's ability to protect itself against the free radicals.

Before I show you what has the Platinum BB Cream done to my face. Do remember to check out this Bio-essence TVC featuring the blogger, Beatrice Tan. :)

Ok, now... let's see my "BEFORE" and "AFTER" picture after applying the Platinum BB Cream.

 Without BB Cream

 With BB Cream

You could see the difference as it had lightened my complexion to an extent which I couldn't achieve it using the normal basic make up base. The traditional base makeup requires the user to wear different layers of makeup (sunscreen, moisturizer, foundation, concealer, loose powder etc) so the coverage appears less natural and cakey compared to the BB cream which the user only need to use this particular product to conceal, whiten, sunscreen and base makeup).

And thanks to The Sample Store, you could too, redeem your free Bio-essence BB Cream series sample, just link on the picture below.

So if YOU managed to refer 20 friends and above, they get to receive a Bio-essence product :)

Ben & Jerry's - LAUNCHING EXCLUSIVE IPHONE4 COVERS!

Ben & Jerry's will be launching a series of limited edition iPhone 4 covers on 17 December! 

With the recent iPhone 4 craze, many consumers are jumping onto the bandwagon of owning iPhone 4s. From the impressive sales record churned up by the iPhone 3, many are expecting sales of iPhone 4 to do just as well, if not, even better with new applications introduced.

Nowadays, consumers are also constantly seeking personalization of their possessions and there is a growing need to have interesting and exquisite mobile phone covers in order to differentiate themselves from the masses.

This Christmas, Ben & Jerry’s is hence launching its trademark iPhone 4 covers. Exclusive to Singapore fans only, the covers come in 3 limited edition designs that are inspired by Ben & Jerry’s trademarks – Peace, Love and Ice Cream.

 

These covers come in exclusive quantity of 5,000 and most importantly, amongst these covers are 12 one-of-a-kind Ben & Jerry’s iPhone4 covers that come with a Certificate of Authenticity. These 12 units are not available anywhere in the world except Singapore!

Consumers can redeem these special covers at all 12 Ben & Jerry’s scoop shops on the 17 December 2010. In a bid to save the environment, consumers can recycle with Ben & Jerry’s and trade in 4 pint lids for 1 iPhone 4 cover! The mass trade-in session will begin at 12pm at all scoop shops except for Night Safari where redemption starts at 6pm.

It will be a perfect gift for your friends and families this Christmas! And don't miss this chance to get this wonderful collectibles! :)

妈咪的猫!

妈咪的猫! I love "MUMMY DE MAO" Hahaha. My cute cute mao! Simply love her to the core. She's MY EVERYTHING. Everything.

Blogger Review: Bio-essence Multi Effect BB Cream

Ok, I believed many many years back, the BB Cream had caused a wave in many parts of the World and also Singapore. The famous one came from Korean and thus it causes many Cosmetics company to go into cultivating BB Cream to arch out a competitive edge. Well, many like BB Cream because it can act as a Concealer and Foundation. Hahaha just the right product for me, as I tends to be very lazy and etc... Of course, the price is steeper than siblings like Foundation, Concealer and etc...

And thus, through The Sample Store, I manage to receive the Bio-essence BB Cream Series pack and yes, this is gonna be a product review for it.

(Left to Right: Bio Multi Effect BB Cream, Bio Platinum BB Cream, Aqua BB Cream)

Ok, 3 products in total and just nice for such a weather in Singapore which is hot and humid. And these 3 products served different purpose:

1. Bio Multi Effect BB Cream - For Coverage.

2. Bio Platinum BB Cream - For Whitening.

3. Aqua BB Cream - For Moisture.

Look, in Singapore, with that sun rays hitting our skin every moment it came contact, it's cause a major hazard and danger. Global warming had proved that UV rays to cause a certain risk for skin cancer and by hitting on the skin, it meant every moment of water and collagen loss thus we need to have certain food intake to replenish that but look at us, how many of us are doing it? So, for ladies, we could have an advantage because certain minerals used in Cosmetics will able to prevent the above. :)

And this product review will basically touch on the  
Bio Multi Effect BB Cream.

For this Bio Multi Effect BB Cream, I find it quite suitable for Asian skin. Reason being, I had used certain brand of BB Cream and everytime I apply it, I felt as if I am a Geisha. It caused a mis-tone on my face and it simply turns off people who saw me in it.

To really prove that this BB Cream is suitable for Coverage. Thus is what I had done.

 

(Applying the BB Cream on my face.)

WARNING: NAKED FACE SHOWN. PLEASE DO NOT EAT BEFORE READING THIS. (You might puke upon seeing my naked and cosmetics-less face.)

 I only applied the BB Cream on half of my face. 

 For better illustration, I had draw a line across my face to identify the differences.

You know for the Younger Generation, we tends to sleep in late and because of stress, we had severe dark eye circles and eye bags. After applying the Bio Multi Effect BB Cream, it had conceal my dark circle and seems to had lift up the eye bags. The side whereby I applied the BB Cream had shown an even toning and complexion of my face (To create the effect of having a FLAWLESS complexion) whereas the one without the BB Cream, shows all the flaws. And I look more energetic after I applied the BB Cream likewise, I look like a Walking Zombe on another hand.

And to show that this BB Cream do wonders for Coverage. I had done another experiment.:

THIS TIME, ON AN ORANGE.

 

Look at it, I manage to conceal the 2 "uneven" and "black" "spots" on the orange. See it does wonders!

I had also done a video on how I had applied the BB Cream on the Orange. REMEMBER TO PAT instead of SPREAD, ok? PAT! PAT! PAT!

And also, not forgetting...

The Bio Multi Effect BB Cream:

• Has 8 in 1 effects with SPF 25 Coverage 
• Had the strongest coverage out of the 3 BB Cream in this Series.
• And for the best and most even application results: Pat the BB Cream gently on the face instead of spreading it out. :)

And WHY THIS BB CREAM?

In a survey done by the HK Fashion & Beauty Magazine among the 6 other competitive BB Creams, the Bio Multi Effect BB Cream emerged as the TOP in terms of being the BB Cream that adheres mostly closely to the skin for flawless coverage.

And also, when applied on an orange, the concealing power of the BB Cream is so strong that it covers even the pockmarks found on the orange peel!
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SEE?

I do understand that it's the Christmas Season now and its the month of celebration and sharing. AND YOU MIGHT GET A CHANCE TO WIN SOME SAMPLES OF THE BIO-ESSENCE BB CREAM SERIES. Interested? Stay tune to my blog as there's something interesting...  

Coming straight up TOMORROW HERE! And it's gonna be a REVIEW on The Bio Platinum BB Cream and also, HOW YOU CAN GET THE BIO ESSENCE BB CREAM SERIES.

Of course, all these are from the courtesy of The Sample Store & Bio Essence. :)

End Of Year

A few more weeks to bid goodbye to 2010. And a week more before XiaoMeiMei (XMM) is turning 4 months old. Time indeed flies and hopefully another year would quickly go by as I am tired from all the things I am facing. No matter what, I will be embarking on a new journey with a new career from January 2011 onwards.

And I hope the decision I made will be blessed and assistance will be granted with the help of my siblings. Gonna make it work this time round.

Bless me with health, faith and luck.

Till then, may I stuck Toto tonight.

P.S: Perhaps I MIGHT ditch Blogger for good. It's giving me problems with the loading of pictures into my entries. Another note, I might change the whole template. Well, who knows yea?

Decisions

Hi peeps, I am still kicking alive however I am utterly pissed and disgusted with my Blogger as I had difficulties in uploading some pictures and "reports" and I am in the meantime trying my ways to resolve it and hiding all my frustrations away. Perhaps, let me share with you on my "happenings" all these while.

In life I believe, everyone had been through a phrase whereby they need to make decision, wise one of course and perhaps for this whole year I had been making decisions till I lost myself through the phrase and glad that I found myself back in time to resolve whatever have not.

1. I chose to be married.
2. I was forcedchose to live with my in-laws
3. I chose to give birth to Princess Maomao
4. I chose to give up my dreams/ career to accompany Maomao on her growing up.
5. I chose to make a decision whereby I will share with you guys at a later part.
6. I chose to sacrifice whatever I have, to make sure Maomao is well-fed and HAPPY.
7. I chose to believe that whatever path I take is the right one with NO regrets.

And the list just adding on...

Perhaps, right now I truly understand how a mother feel. I do have negative thoughts (perhaps most of the time!) but... because of Maomao everything turned positive. I know if I let go off whatever opportunities I had, just to be with Maomao, embarking her growing up journey.

I can earn money, to fulfill my dream of owning a house (all thanks to the new rules!) and etc... But I realise, I can't earn time esp when the earlier years are so important! :( However unless I found a job with focus on WORK LIFE balance, then perhaps, I will go for it. :)

有粥吃粥!

For the time being, I love you all! It's December so happy holidays!